Tuesday, August 18, 2009

The other side

They say I am on the wrong side of the road. That I can't see the cars coming from behind and i may get hurt. I listen. And keep quiet.

They say I am on the wrong side on the train. If I have to get down at dadar i need to be on the other side. I listen. And keep quiet.

They say I am on the wrong side of 60. That I may have to go the extra mile to get placed. I listen. And keep quiet.

They say I am on the wrong side if I am not studying enough. That I ll have trouble later in my life. That I won't be successful enough to be satisfied. I listen. And keep quiet.

They say I am on the wrong side if I plan my life. That it is wrong to bound oneself to what he or she has to do and keep bothering oneself. That it is insignificant. I listen. And keep quiet.

They say I am on the wrong side if I am confused about things. That my confusion won't get me anywhere. And it will bother me as a habit for the rest of my life. I listen. And keep quiet.

They say I am on the wrong side if worry about things. That no one has seen what the future holds for him. So there is no point in getting anxious about things you are not sure to be yours. I listen. And keep quiet.

They say I am on the wrong side if i do anything anti-social. Even if it is the smallest of things. I listen. And keep quiet.

They say I am on the wrong side if I can't decide. That I over analyse things which makes me difficult to choose. And that choice is something that is not worth the thinking. I listen. And keep quiet.

They say i am on the wrong side if I underestimate myself. If I feel that I am not strong enough. That I have all what it takes to be the one I want in this world, but I just don't know it yet. I listen. And keep quiet.


They say I am wrong when I am silently diplomatic. That I should be straightforward. That I should say what I feel. I listen. And still keep quiet.

They say I am on the wrong side when I smile too less. Life is a gift , they say and that I have a better life than most people. I listen. And keep quiet.


They say I am on the wrong side when I think too much. That once I get rid of this habit,I ll be the happiest person in the world. I listen. And i keep quiet.

They say a lot of things. Most of it registers. Some of it doesn't. But none can be ignored. Why? Because they have said it.

They say a lot of things. About the wrong side. They say as if they know. What it is to be on the wrong side. To come to think of it, there is no wrong side. Its just the other side. Which they don't know. Or they don't want to know. Maybe because the front side guarantees a lot of good things. And the wrong side does not. May be they are just scared to explore. May be they want a simple normal life where you sit back in a recliner chair many years from now to think about how nice (read dull and monotonous) his your life was. May be that is a good thing. I don't know. Its just that it is not to be looked as right or wrong. Its just what is yours what is not yours.

They say a lot of things. Their saying does not affect me. It is a matter of choice. If I take it in, then it registers and I get affected. For example, suppose if some relative of yours passes away at 3 p.m. You get the news at 8 p.m. When you get the news, you are affected. That is not because of the relative dying. Because the person died at 3. If that was to make you unhappy you should have been unhappy at 3. But you were not. So there you had a choice of talking it in or just being yourself. And you unconsciously take the choice of being sad. You had another choice of being the same. Any ways, that was just an example.

They say a lot of things. They say I write long posts. May be I should listen to them and cut this one abruptly. Or maybe i just need therapy. :)

24 comments:

Amey said...

for the people who don't this ass please read this post again and if u can find flaws do point out

pratap kaul said...

'they' care, that is why they say. filtering is the key word.you don't owe 'them' anything..again idle mind is a devil's workshop...get busy.

Ankit B. Rathod said...

'they' just say.... its not necessary dat u listen to 'them'.... dnt listen to wat 'they' say..... listen to wat ur heart says....

ashwathi said...

some of the things they say is what one wants to hear.. to believe there's another side ..another way to go about it..not the right or wrong side. just an alternative..in case v want to explore that one as well but are just unaware or have forgotten about it.

Goswami said...

hear everything;it provides you options.but listen to yourself is wat "i" say(mind it!! ;))......n ya not complicating things does help, though its not always possible. but ya it does help :)
P.S. :i didn't understand ashwathi's comment

Kirti said...

peace..now all smiles..good transformation..they say a lot of things..and they will never stop. it was, it is n it will always be upto u, what to register and what not to.keep ur ears open always. not your mind.

omkar said...

'they' is a vast thing...some of them r always worth listenin 2..others..thank them 4 sayin n go ahead with ur own life..

Sanket said...

They also say that you write wonderful posts.They wait for you to update.They like to read it. You listen..And keep quiet.

Seriously good one!!

Rishi said...

they agree with sanket.

Rishkul Kulkarni said...

i don't have much to say...you covered all the points... :P

keepituppy...

anand said...

ppl have left nothing more to comment ...keep writing ..

poisonivy said...

sahi hai :)

but you do what you feel like doing..

fuck 'them' !

Gaurav DobhaL said...

they have said it all:-)

Tanmay said...

seriously speaking don't give a fuck about wat 'they' say. Do what u want to. coz they always want u to do things they cudn't in their life...gr8 post...keep posting(frequently)...plz don't listen and keep quiet

Rashmi Nambiar said...

I am always confused about most of the things. I totally relate to wot u saying. U should take up writing full time.

Divya said...

Very nice. This post makes me want to "Shut Up!" :-)

losin_my_soul said...

they say, u definitely need therapy! and maybe they say because they have been there and know what it is like - to be on the other side...

pratap kaul said...

from black to yellow! all smiles is surely the way ahead ha..good good

Madhav said...

Hi,

I think you have written this piece well. The example at the end doesnt really fit. Its not correct. Also, maybe in your fit to end this abruplty, you havent taken, what is a novel th
ought, to its logical conclusion. That could be a good idea for some pieces but I am not sure its apt for this one.

They say I critically analyze everything, I hold my head up high and say "I do".

Keep up the good work. I hope to join you in blog world soon.

gurtej said...

yaar!!! there 1 thing i absolutely agree with... n thats the last line..(u need therapy)... kitna sochta hai.. chill le... nice post... really welll written... dont really agree wid the example though

K.G. said...

agree ... agree

Shraddha said...

its true....whn will they understand..ok i dnt knw which 'they' u r referin 2 bt we all hv our set of 'they'...a gr8 read...

snehali said...

EVEN U ARE "THEY"AT TIMES....N THAT IS BECAUSE U CARE A LOT FOR SOME...SO THE THEYS IN UR LIFE CARE A LOY ABOUT U.....MY FIRST COMMENT.....I HAVE STARTED READING UR BLOGS.....U WRITE TOO GOOD

Anonymous said...

wowo wow wow!loved it!